Should I Beware The Overshare or Wear My Heart on My Sleeve?

The dilemma facing writers throughout history is keeping me awake at night.

Rosalind Pagan
6 min readAug 4, 2022


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Back in the heady days of this platform when curation seemed more straightforward, those beautiful words every Medium writer hoped to see popped up in my email inbox: “Our curators just read your story…”

It continued, “Based on its quality, they selected it…”

What news, what joy! A story I had just published was going to be distributed in five topics. I was delighted.

I had only been writing for a few months about some of my life experiences and was already curated in feminism, equality, relationships and others, but never five topics for one story.

What I failed to realize was I’d screwed up big time. I had overshared something I should have been more circumspect about. And it came back to bite me. I hit delete without hesitation.

Stephen King once said:

“If you intend to write as truthfully as you can, your days as a member of polite society are numbered anyway.”

He was not wrong.

I’ve since managed to offend my children, my friends and even my work colleagues, resulting in me backtracking, sanitizing and culling my published stories almost to the point of extinction.

Fast forward to today and I’m paralyzed into inaction in case I might overshare details of my life and get myself into hot water, again.

You see, my pressing problem is I’ve finally fallen for a lovely man that I actually want to be with and I’m so scared to let him into my world, I haven’t let him read any of my writing.

I’ve welcomed him into my life and my heart with open arms. But do I want him to see all of my personal stories in one fell swoop? Hell no.

I can see a future with him but I’m not sure if I’m ready to let him time travel into my past.

What do I do?

The one group of people I am not so concerned about offending is my exes. But that…